Reasons why someone apologies constantly and how to overcome
Do you find yourself anxious or worried that you might cause someone inconvenience, in the result is you apologise to people constantly?
Let’s look at the reasons why one does that and how to overcome this Apology-complex-
- Low self-esteem: Well one usually apologises extensively because they fear judgement and that sorry comes out as a defence mechanism.
- Anxiety: An anxious person tends to take unnecessary responsibility that makes them apologise for matters they might not be responsible for.
- Fear of Rejection: A fear of rejection or disapproval might lead someone to apologize preemptively to maintain social harmony.
Well I personally believe self-worth is responsible for low self-esteem and Negative self-talk reduces one self-worth which makes one see oneself as menace who causes trouble and inconvenience to other people, this results in apologising constantly.
How to overcome it-
- Set realistic goals: Goals when achieved give us great pleasure when they do not affect our self-worth, so setting realistic goals will increase your self-confidence and self-esteem hence you’ll reduce this apologetic attitude.
- Positive Affirmation- Every day read self worth affirmation 5-6 times it could be anything.
I used read affirmations like I am capable of achieving whatever I set my mind to, It help me become positive towards life. - Cut Down Toxic People: These include people who lower your self-worth make you feel small on purpose, gaslight you or make you feel embarrassed constantly.
Believe me when I say remove them as they could be the anchor stopping you from growing emotionally. - Go Out On A Coffee: This is a little technique that helped me a lot to gain self-confidence.
What I do is once a week I go out alone for a good cup of coffee which helped me gain the feeling of “I don’t need anyone to accompany me, I am self-sufficient” Also this alone time gives me space to reflect on my life and attitude.